Answer at least one of these questions, if not all to check in with yourself.

What are you angry about?
What are you sad about?
What are you anxious about?
What are you excited about?
What are you hopeful about?

Share with your spouse what you noticed about your current experience. Keep it safe.

How well do you maintain your equanimity generally?

What things easily upset you?

Describe a special moment you have experienced in the last week or two? Was it with someone? Was it an accomplishment or achievement?

Was it something you saw or observed? Was it an activity?

How do you and your spouse express fondness and admiration in your relationship?

How do you manage who you are when you are under stress?

How generous is your spirit and attitude towards your spouse?

If you had a month to go to a summer camp this year, what kind of camp would it be? What would you do there?

What can you do to enrich your marriage in 2025?

Disconnected

A Conversation with Yourself

Will you be good company?

Do you watch Hallmark Christmas movies together?

If so, what effect do they have on your relationship?

How do you cope with losing Daylight Savings Time?

How good are you at speaking affirmations to your spouse, making statements of appreciation?

What relationships energize you?

Find your irritability score.

How well are you able to listen to your spouse for understanding and support when they are sharing negative emotions like sadness, anger, fear or anxiety?

Make a short list of some “good moments” you have experienced in the last two weeks. Something you did, someone you enjoyed, somewhere you went, something you accomplished, something you learned, something you are reading.

(Generally, not focused on your marriage.)

How would you describe the ‘atmosphere’ of your family when you were a child, age 5-11?

How is the ‘atmosphere’ of your family similar or different?