Good Conversations


A weekly newsletter encouraging couples to start talking like friends

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Coping
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Coping

How do you cope with losing Daylight Savings Time?

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Skilled Listening
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Skilled Listening

How well are you able to listen to your spouse for understanding and support when they are sharing negative emotions like sadness, anger, fear or anxiety?

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Good Moments
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Good Moments

Make a short list of some “good moments” you have experienced in the last two weeks. Something you did, someone you enjoyed, somewhere you went, something you accomplished, something you learned, something you are reading.

(Generally, not focused on your marriage.)

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Atmosphere
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Atmosphere

How would you describe the ‘atmosphere’ of your family when you were a child, age 5-11?

How is the ‘atmosphere’ of your family similar or different?

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Vision
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Vision

Write down 3-7 responses to the following questions.

1. What would you like to be true of your marriage? You may include things that are already true.

2. What would you like to be true of yourself in your marriage?

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Book Report
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Book Report

Do you like to read? If so, what do you like to read and why? For entertainment, inspiration, spiritual growth, getting unplugged, learning? Perhaps you do not like to read, thinking that reading is for lazy people who aren’t getting things done. Or perhaps your job requires so much reading that you can’t stand to read otherwise. Or maybe you mostly listen to podcasts.

Regardless, what did you read or listen to this summer that entertained you, inspired you or helped you grow?

What would you recommend?

(Reply to this email with your response.)

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Back-to-School
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Back-to-School

What did you enjoy about going back to school when you were 6-10?

What might have made you a little anxious?

Do you still find some inspiration in the start of a new school year regardless of how long it’s been since you were in school?

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Inspired
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Inspired

Author and speaker, Jon Acuff says that he and his wife, Jenny make it a point to spend time with couples who like each other rather than those who don’t. They are inspired by the affection, playfulness and mutual support of such couples.

Do you spend time with couples who inspire you?

Who are they and how do they inspire you?

(Beware of the isolation caused by a busy life or the social inertia that makes you your only company. That kind of isolation puts too much weight on your relationship.)

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Practicing Fondness
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Practicing Fondness

Endearing: inspiring feelings of affection or admiration.

Name a characteristic you find endearing about your spouse.

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Alive in Your Marriage
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Alive in Your Marriage

“Although they still live together, they are leading lonely lives. They have become like ghosts, haunting the marriage that once made them feel so alive.”

(John Gottman’s observation after a counseling session with a couple. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, page 31.)

What makes you feel alive in your marriage?

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Dog Days
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Dog Days

How do you handle the Dog Days of Summer?

What positive things do you do as a couple?

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When Support Is Needed
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

When Support Is Needed

(Background: While in Costa Rica two weeks ago, Mark broke his foot and is on crutches or a scooter for eight weeks. Libby suggested this conversation and

prompt.)

What do you learn about yourself and your relationship when one of you is injured, sick, or recovering from a health event?

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Taking Stock
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Taking Stock

What are some things that you appreciate in your life right now? Perhaps ways you feel blessed?

What are some concerns you might have?

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Managing your stress well
Mark Acuff Mark Acuff

Managing your stress well

One of the best things you can do for your spouse is to manage well your own stress. If you ignore it it will spill into your interactions and it is unfair to expect your spouse to constantly adjust to your unmanaged stress.

How well do you manage your stress?

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