The Affirmations Challenge

How good are you at speaking affirmations to your spouse, making statements of appreciation? 1-5

How often do you speak words of affirmation?

If your answer is, “I don’t know,” then you can be sure of one thing: You don’t do it enough.

How about setting a goal.

(Answer these questions to yourself before speaking to each other.)

Our Experience

Personally, I don’t give it much thought. I think I am doing well if I keep my mouth shut from complaining or grousing, although Libby does not give me much to complain about. But, I can find a lot of other things to complain about if I’m not careful.

If I do not get intentional about speaking affirmations, then I will always be a 1 or 2. (By the way, if your real response was something like, “Well, if they ever did something worth affirming, I would be sure to tell them,” or, “Why should we affirm them for something they should have done anyway?” Give yourself a -5!

Becoming good at giving affirmations is about us, not them. And when we get good at it – we change. We become more aware, more appreciative. We become less critical and our hearts become more tender.

On this first day of November how about accepting The Affirmations Challenge by committing to speak one affirmation each day for the entire month. If you need to, write one down every day in the morning or evening. “You mean actually set aside time each day to think about my spouse?” You got it.

See what happens – to You.