Investing

How are you investing in your marriage?
What small, daily deposits are you making?
If your marriage was a 401K, how is it growing?

“Wow, I don’t think I do much to invest in our marriage,” Libby starts.

“Of course you do," I reply. “For instance, you do a good job tolerating me when I can’t stop talking about my latest random fascination.”

“Oh, yeah. We did have about nine days of Lafayette a while ago,” she agrees.

“And I think that we try to care about what each other cares about.,” she adds.

“Yes. I’m excited for you that your Zinnias are already sprouting.” (Even though I know that in months they will be too tall to stand and will obstruct our sidewalk.)

I have to admit that she invests more routinely and more often in our marriage. These days I think that my most important investment is being more proactive in knowing how she is doing. Whenever I journal, which is usually two to three times a week, I will reflect on how she is doing – not critique, but consider her well-being, note her stresses, celebrate her joys. I become more present to her life, and I become aware of things I can do (or more usually, stop doing) to support her.

How are you investing in your marriage?